Katsa as a tool

Katsa for the most part of her life has been used as a tool as i am sure we can all agree but the effect this has on her is profound.  Not all, but most of the men in her life have attempted to either use her as a tool, hide things from her or lie to her.  This often affects her thinking and i believe this is why she will ultimately have a hard time trusting.  When she decides to trust Po she then stumbles across his true grace.  Someone she thought she knew and trusted flat out lied to her and broke her trust.  Ranada is constantly using her as a tool to perpetuate his own power making her an instrument of fear.  Oll is more sympathetic and a father figure but he still insists upon her doing randa's work.  so that leaves us with raffin and giddon.  raffin has always been there for her and does not impose any will upon her so he is a solid male figure to have in her life.  giddon as well i believe is solid he is always looking out for her, even though she doesn't need it and he does his best to make her feel normal at his castle, which she finally just realized, though he does try to get her to impose randa's will as well, stilll i believe he and oll to be good people for her to be around.  When you consider how her uncle treats her and how po has lied to her and those close to her still try to get her to do things that go against what she wants is it any wonder she does not want to get married?